If you’ve watched much television lately, you’ve probably seen plenty of diamond commercials encouraging you to express your love through some type of diamond jewelry.
After all, as longtime industry giant De Beers Diamonds loves to remind us, “a diamond is forever.”
A couple of years ago before one of our sons got engaged, I accompanied him to learn about diamonds before he made his selection.
It had been quite a while since I’d heard the explanations about “the four c’s”: cut, color, clarity, and carat.
This was a big decision – both the purchase and this step in his life – so we were eager to learn.
The jeweler gave thorough descriptions of each criteria for assessing diamonds, showing us examples of each. Most all of them looked pretty to me.
He then handed us eye loupe magnifiers and showed us how to closely inspect each diamond, revealing imperfections not seen by the naked eye.
These flaws, varying from pinpoint spots to feathers to cracks, reminded me of people.
We come in all shapes and sizes. Some of us sparkle more than others. But, upon close inspection, we each have our flaws, don’t we?
“One of the key characteristics of diamond clarity is inclusions,” a quick internet search tells us. “Inclusions are small imperfections within a diamond that are created due to the extreme pressure and heat that diamonds experience when they form.”
Hmmm ... we humans go through some pretty extreme pressures, don’t we? Do our flaws render us worthless? Hardly!
“Remember that diamond inclusions are simply part of a diamond’s magnificent development. Almost all diamonds on the market will have some degree of inclusions,” the article continued.
Finally, the jeweler cautioned our son about putting too much weight on selecting a diamond with no imperfections.
He revealed his many years of experience have shown him most women value a larger diamond over one hitting the top marks of the scale in color and clarity, for example. Interesting indeed!
On one hand, this “bigger is better” preference by many women seems to indicate pride.
But maybe it goes deeper. After all, women are often drawn to a big heart in a man.
So maybe a big ole sincere heart trumps flaws, which shrink in comparison.
Just as there’s more than one facet to “diamond psychology,” maybe we can remember there’s more than one angle from which to examine people. And to do so always requires more than just a glance.
I think about my son’s flaws and how his now wife loves him anyway. That day at the diamond showroom, I smiled as I imagined how excited she’d be when he proposed … when he put that ring on her finger.
Oh, how I remember the excitement in my own life at that special time!
I knew every time she looked at her ring, her heart would skip a beat and she’d do a double-take - “Is this really mine”?!
And I hoped and prayed they’d “hold that thought,” always remembering the love and excitement their hearts felt.
For we know newness fades. The excitement of staring at that ring and cleaning it “all the time” would fade.
As the years increase, so does the danger of taking our love and the excitement surrounding it for granted.
The day he proposed, I wished I could bottle some of their “gushing heart filled with love to the point of overflowing” for them to draw on during the hard, less exciting times ahead.
Ultimately, I wanted to make sure the biggest lesson learned about diamonds was that all-important “fifth C”: commitment.
Diamonds have been called “brilliant symbols of devotion.” I prayed the ring would be just that: a symbol of their devotion and commitment - the choice they must daily make from this day forward.
As I looked at my own ring that day, I was reminded of much. So much.
We need reminders. As our son selected what would be theirs, my heart was reminded of the importance of commitment and the daily choice we make (or don’t) to maintain that commitment.
The jeweler offered to clean my ring that day. It needed it. And oh, how it sparkled!
May their love (and ours) grow ever deeper. May they (and we) realize their relationship is like a diamond in that, as the internet tutorial put it, “Every diamond is unique, and even their slight flaws add to their fiery beauty!”
May they (and we) thank God for loving them (us), and may they (and we) always look to Jesus, our example of how to love. May their love (and ours) shine brightly like a diamond – forever.
“Commit to the LORD whatever you do, and he will establish your plans.” (Proverbs 16:3)
Gina Moore, a news-editorial journalism major, has operated Marketplace Consignment Sale for 26 years and has worked part-time at Treasures. She also enjoys country cooking, reading and writing about motherhood, life on the farm and how God’s love and lessons surround residents.